Sunday, May 15, 2011

Pretty good weekend and a BIG announcement!

I wrote this nearly a week and a half ago, but forgot to post it. So, when it says Sunday, keep in mind that is not this past Sunday but the week before... Sorry for any confusion that may cause!

Not sure how to start all this, so I will start with our weekend plans. Our weekend was looking to be a bit of a bummer when Friday came along. Our oldest had to head back to his University after a very short visit. We have become accustomed to having him home for a couple of months during the summer, but things are different this year. He is getting ready to start his Senior year, can't believe he will be graduating next year! So, this summer he has to get his internship done. On top of interning, he has football training to get ready for this upcoming season. He has a lot of work ahead of him to condition for this Fall, especially after being post op from a second straight shoulder rebuild. If this was not enough he has summer school, physics 1 & 2, as well as working to pay for all his gas and extras. Words can not describe how proud we are of him. He's worked hard, made the Dean's list, he's always taken at least 18 credits each semester on top of working and football.

Friday night, we got a message from a very close family friend that she was having emergency surgery on Saturday morning. We went to the hospital to keep her family company on Saturday, during the surgery, only to find it was postponed till today(Sunday). Thank GOD, the surgery was not as complicated as the Surgeons had expected, no complications and she is recovering well. She will get all the test results hopefully within the next couple of days. We are now praying that our friends pathology reports come back benign.

If this was not enough for a Friday...The sweet gal that we have been talking to for a few weeks, became sick from the antibiotics her dentist gave her for her upcoming appointment. Poor baby, she was in a lot of pain and really sick to her stomach. She was worried about being sick, as she was looking forward to a get together with some of her best friends the next day. We prayed for her health to return and for her to be able to hang out with her friends.....Well, it kinda worked. They came over and I think they had a good time. I know not exactly the way they probably wanted, but anytime you are with friends it is good........So, enough with the bad you see I said it was looking like a bummer weekend.

So, lets get to why made it pretty good. Our son got back safely and is excited for his upcoming internship. Our family friend, had a safe trip to the operating room without any complications and our sweet gal is getting over her antibiotic induced illness. To add to this, here we are in mid May and the windows are still open. In Arizona, that is a great thing....full time A/C season is coming. Its something we dread, because then we will not crack the windows till late September or October.

Can I add to this? Sure I can....we had a great family weekend. Laid low, but we had fun. The boys and I got our best friend back on Friday....The Xbox!! The boys did a special beta test with Microsoft, while using the program it damaged our console... What did Microsoft do? Replaced it with a brand new one! We sent ours back so they could learn how the updated caused the problem, they in turn sent us a brand new one. The boys were a little worried because their X-Box was a special Halo limited edition, but Microsoft replaced it with the exact same special edition. Good deal, especially since our unit was off warranty and the new one came with another warranty. Certainly can not complain about that! So, we played some games this weekend and had a blast. We also watched hockey and I grilled this weekend....

What can be better than family time, Hockey, gaming, nice weather and good food? I can answer this for ya......I can officially and very proudly say that we have an "official" potential sisterwife! This evening,(Sunday)I asked her if she would be comfortable with being called our potential and she agreed that it would be fitting! Marsa and I are both excited to make this announcement! We really could not be happier with her and I would like to thank GOD for bringing her into our lives! As I have stated in my prior post, I do believe she was GOD sent. It is really hard to explain it here in words, but I will give it shot. When you meet your soulmate,in my case a second soulmate, you just know it! I think soulmates are a gift from GOD. It is for us as human mortals to recognize the gift that He has bestowed upon us. I knew it from the first moment I saw Marsa, I knew that she and I were meant to be. You may ask how this can be, after all at the time I was just a kid in high school... What can I say? YOU JUST KNOW IT!! I am so thankful that God equipped me with the ability to recognize that Marsa was the right one for me. Shortly after, I drove out to see my grandparents and talked to them about it... I explained the special feeling I had and they saw that sparkle in my eyes. Then and there I told them she was the one, that I was going to marry her one day... 21 years later I know that I was right, and I have not been proven wrong. The same thing goes with our gal....Who in GODS name tries sending a rejected email 4 times to total strangers? I can tell you, I am an impatient bugger! I would probably quit after 1 shot, 2 at the most. But something told her we were worth trying again, that something I believe is GOD compelling her to not quit. I will always remember this story.... I believe that it is something the 3 of us will be telling our kids and grandkids someday! Every since that day we emailed and did some online chatting... We text constantly like a bunch of teens. We have so much in common, I can't describe the feeling in words, but it is fantastic! I've had this feeling before, but only with Marsa. What is even better, Marsa has this same feeling about her that I do.

This weekend with her besties, she even had them read over our 2 blogs. Her friends were a bit skeptical on our true intentions, I can't say as I blame them. The internet is not always a safe place, its important to be very careful. I commend her friends for being protective! I know I would be as well! So many people think that Polygamy is only sexual in nature...that US men are pervert, looking for a way to cheat on our current wife or wives. It is so far from the truth, while I cqan't speak for everyone. I know that in my case that is not who I am....Then there are those that think if its not just for the man, then maybe the couple are swingers trying to lure in a women into something for their pleasure. Let me tell you right here and now, that is not Polygamy. Those of us that are involved in true polygamy are in it for other reasons..... In my case, I know that we have been called to it, I have said this before and I will say it again....I prayed, fasted and asked for guidance on this mater. I do believe this is our calling, I believe she is our soulmate.

With all this said, we are not going to rush things. We are going to get to know each other much much better. We are not going to be like some people and be like, Oh we have talked for a couple of months, lets get hitched. Nope, marriage is forever and I do mean forever. It is my firm belief that marriage is eternal,not as the marriage vows state...."Till death do us part". I/WE believe that when we pass we are still married and waiting for one another on the other side. When I die, I am not going to be leaving my wife/wives and children behind....I will just be waiting for them to join me in Heaven. Love and marriage is not just an EARTH is spiritual and everlasting. Why would GOD give us this wonderful sacrament only to have it ripped away once we give up our flesh? It is our flesh that dies, not our spirit/soul. I don't know, maybe those who do not have soulmates will not have the same heavenly bond? I cannot answer that one. But I do believe that soulmates are bonded forever...IF THEY FIND THEMSELVES in this lifetime. When God gave Eve to Adam, they were in the Garden of Eden, there was no death and yet they were expected to be partnered forever. Okay, I kind of went really deep on this...sorry. I have said this in the past I know, I can go on and on......

To close this up.... Our short journey of knowing her so far has been wonderful! If everything works out and this is truly GODS intended path for the 3 of us....I never want it to end for the 3 of us. I know it will only get better once we finally are able to visit one another.....Did I mention she has the greatest "CWAZY" little guy? Oh well, that will have to wait for another blog.....because this one is just for the 3 adults!!!

Oh yeah, we made it official tonight(Sunday) we are "off the market"! Kind of awesome to be able to write that! I do not know how it would be said or written...When a single person is dating they are no longer single, but a couple. We are a couple already, but we have an offical potential we aren't quite yet Polygamists, a Triad, Poly or Plural..... So what the heck do you call "this" part of it? I do not know, other than in poly circles it "courting" a potential. I don't know.. All I know is that it feels fantastic and right!!! I know the 3 of us have many personal family hurdles ahead, with our parents and siblings,etc.... But oh well, if they cannot love us for who we are and what we believe in......that is up to them. If anyone has any names as to what we would be called at this point, I have open ears....

Take care all and thanks for reading....that is if anyone is reading this?!?

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

When is she the one?

So, to the very small populous that reads my blog. I have not been writing due to a variety of things going on here in our house. Nothing super major, mainly illness type stuff. While things were in crazy we decided to just give the search for a sisterwife a break. It wasn't like there was anything major going on in the search anyways.....I look at it as GOD knew it was not the right time, as he knew that some medical challenges were ahead of us. So, we got through all this craziness and everything is getting back to normal for the most part. It is so nice to just be us again......I thank GOD for allowing us to be us again. I also thank HIM for the small wake up call without any major setbacks in our is good to be reminded we are human and we can be called back home at any minute or second......okay enough of the depressing stuff as we have survived all that junk......Oh, also forgot and I apologize to you Melissa!! During this time we have been away my loving and adorable wife lost a childhood best friend to breast cancer. Melissa died Apr 2011 after a very courageous fight with her cancer. I am very proud to call her a friend and we are glad that she no longer suffers and is at peace with our Lord and Savior...RIP Melissa.......We love you!!

Okay back on topic.....When is she the one? I ask this to myself over and over again. What makes a potential sisterwife that one special person, a real fit to our family and the true soulmate that my wife and I are looking for? We have talked with a few women over the past couple of years. I am not trying to sound like we are busy bodies. I am talking about maybe a handful and I am just talking about communicating through instant messenging and texting. We have yet to find that one person that we actually had starting the talking on the phone phase....and surely have not had any visits to date.
But what makes her, "HER". I guess from what I am finding is WE as is the 2 of us and "HER" would see the world through the same eyes. We have the same dreams and wants out of life. When I see her face in her picture and talk with her I feel like a teenager all over again...I feel all nervous and yet very excited till our next conversation. What makes her the one? She makes my wife feel the exact same way!! For those who have not found a true soulmate it is kind of hard to explain this feeling. My wife and I are true soulmates and we know it because there is this special feeling. Your life revolves around one another...I would almost say it shares similarities to twins. Twins have that certain specialness....and I would say true soulmates share that feeling. I am not saying we a dependent on one another at all. But after going through this latest illness scare WE knew that we were meant for one another and that the lose of one or the other would be truly devastating. Would we survive and move on with life, yes BUT a piece of us would be missing. I know that this kind of search for a soulmate that matches with the 2 of us sounds like a tall order but she is out there. I know it....and I think she is closer than we know.

I know we all have our own version of "THE"one. Some people are if she is a good fit for one part of the equation then eventually she will get along with the other. Plural marriage is not about taking a shot. So many people I think take this as some kind of experiment. I think with all the shows coming out lately there is a crowd growing of WE can do that honey or lets give it a try!! NO PEOPLE, it is not like getting a puppy!!! You have to have a reason for going into a plural marriage. At first I thought people were odd when you hear people saying they received a testimonial. People will say a testimonial is a MORMON thing. Call it what you want, but plain and simple it is GOD tapping you on the shoulder and pointing you in the direction....It is not watching a TV show and saying lets give it a go. How do I say it....there is a deep feeling inside. I have had this message come to me and I even liquid fasted for GOD to truly point me in the direction he has planned for my family and I. As you all know if you have read my prior postings, I did not start this whole plural thing in our family. It was my wife.....So, with that I prayed and prayed. I got my answer and like I said I went the whole ten yards and fasted to get clarity....okay I am dragging on and on. I just wanted to preach a little for those looking or thinking of looking into this to do it for a true reason!!!! Do not join the Polygamy movement to fulfill your fantasies, have a maid with benefits, to have a baby momma or any of the other stupid things I have read....Do it because GOD has tapped your shoulder and told you to make the commitment......

So time to get back on I like to ramble. It is just who I am, I like to talk......So, I think I said it above we have started our search up again. I think we started about 3 or 4 months ago. Man, is it hard to find people interested in Polygamy that are not looking at it for the sex. So many people think of Polygamy as a fancy word for swingers of some sort. There are a couple of clean websites out there that single women are finding and signing up for but not many and most are using it for finding answers.....and that is great. To everyone and anyone get educated about this before moving on. So, like I said we began our search again and it had been hit or miss. We chatted with this one young lady and talking to her was like trying to make peanut butter out of radishes!!! There was just no communication between her and I nor she and M. Asking questions and getting 3 words back just does not work for me. If you are not interested just say so and lets all move on. As you can imagine it did not last long. We have been talking with another gal we met on a website and she is very sweet. There are a couple of hang ups though. She has a lot of emotional baggage she needs to sort out. I am not willing to be a place to run to and hide. We are not a safety net. The other thing is she is still living with her boyfriend while talking about possibly being our potential. We have told her that she needs to be free and clear before there is any movement....this was about 5 weeks ago and nothing!!! We are now talking with a very sweet gal....this one I think could be the is a strange crossing of paths. I almost feel that she is GOD look at it as we see it. This unnamed lady feels that Polygamy is her calling. She decides to start searching the internet about the lifestyle and to see whats out there. She for some reason come across my wife blog. It is not like she has a huge following and is big news on the internet. I think she has maybe 20 or 30 followers. So, this gal reads all her blogs and then follows the link to my blog. She enjoyed what she read and emailed us. Out of the blue we get an email talking about coming across our blogs and liking what she read. We contacted her back and have been emailing for a couple of weeks. Our schedules have made it hard to start instant messenging but we have started now. We have even started texting....We have so much in common already and we are just getting started. We joke about how it seems like we have known one another for ages. She talks about being shy with new people but with us, she is not having the shyness. Like I said WE 3 have tons in common already,which is very important with a potential sisterwife. We are only in the infancy of this relationship and it is just great. As I stated way way above about soulmates...She makes US have those teenage feelings when talking to her and seeing her "G" rates photos. When we are messenging we hate for it to end and when it does end on the computer there are always a few extras texting on the phone afterwards....I can personally say that I do not want it to end. Just like when I am with M and we are talking, I feel the same way with her. Going back to GOD sent....we have both prayed for GOD to send us a sign and the right person. Just the other day I asked GOD for a sign of my own. I can say I have not had any dreams of being Poly, the other night before bed I ask for a sign. I had my first dream. I will not elaborate on it but it was my very first Poly dream and she was in it. I know this relationship is still in the meet at the coffee shop phase but it has a very special feeling deep down inside. I know I am letting a lot of information out about this new person and I know she/you are going to and or are reading this. But I have always been open and honest here and I always say what is on my mind. I think our meeting is through the divine grace of GOD. She lives way over where she does and we live way over here where we do. There was noooooooo way we were ever just going to meet by chance. The chances that we were going to meet on some website are probably slim and none. The pure chance that she came across M's blog out of ALL the other Polygamy blogs....Divine grace by the man above.

To close this looooooooooong session. How is she the one? She makes us smile, she makes us happy, she loves all the same things we do, she cherishes the things we do, she has dreams, she has goals, she knows this lifestyle is for her and there is just so much more to learn....I say her name and I smile as much as I do when I see my lovely first wife. With all this stated, I am not going to fast track anything. We all have to get to know each much better, we all have to know 100% that we are on the same page. I have been married for 21 years and do not plan on having my first divorce because WE failed in making sure SHE IS THE ONE!!!!

Much love to all my friends and followers! Till the next edition.......